Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Am i asking for to much? am i being pushy?

i have never seen my dad get my mom a present without her asking for something,my borther always asks me to get his girlfriends prestents, %26amp;now my boyfriend who is following the same path. im trying to tell him that its not the gift itself that matters to me at all, but the thought that goes into it. i just want something thoughtfull, i dont care if he found it on the street, but he keeps telling me he doesnt know what to give me. ive given him so many hints and even told him a few things i thought would be thoughtful and he is still having trouble. i told him i can buy shoes and clothes myself, and i wanted him to give me something special that has meaning behind it. weve been together for 2 and a half years,why is it so hard for him to think of something special?he wrote me a poem a few monhts ago for my birthday and never gave it to me,its in his computer, so i told him for the holidays to print it out and frame it for me, and he said thats not agift because i already told him. help

Am i asking for to much? am i being pushy?
Men just have no concept of what to give as a gift, possibly because we buy what we want when the time is right. My wife always had to tell me what she would like and then I would forget before I had bought it so I needed to ask again. I know that poem would make a great gift, but to a man, even framed it is not a gift. (it's a man thing, unexplainable) If you can train him to do romantic things then you are well ahead of the race.
Reply:Tell him aspects of your life that will help him to chose a gift that he thinks would be meaningful
Reply:I told my ex-wife that my gift to her is me. Now you know why she's my ex. Men are down right bad at finding gifts, that's why we get married and leave it up to our wives to do it. But, to make a long story short, all my wife wanted was flowers, and stupid me never got the hint till it was to late. Maybe you should tell him it's flowers and even tell him your best color,because us men are really dumb at picking gifts.
Reply:He should give you want you want most if you don't already have it.
Reply:Your not asking too much or being too pushy. I've been there too. My fiance is the same way. He is thought ful but doesnt know what to get me unless I tell him. Its not that hard to but for us girls. He could get "jewlery" or lotion or girl stuff. Thats at least something that we would enjoy.


You would think since youve been together for over 2 yrs that he would know you and know what you like. I agree w/ you that its the thought behind the gift. My fiance had a bday card for me on his computer. HE moved and lost the cd the card was on. I told him to get paper and a pen and make me a card instead of buying a card. But he wanted to give me that one. I never got a card and he still hasn't found the cd.


I know what your going through. Just keep telling him how you feel and maybe someday he will understand. Maybe you have to point things out all the time so he will get the hints. Good luck!!



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