What do I do?

I met an older man online. He knows what he wants in a woman. He has chosen me.I struggle with depression. I am having mixed emotions. He works all week and expects me to be with him on the weekends. I also have two children to take care of and cant always jump when he says jump. I feel hes somewhat demanding and says if I want to be with him I would be there,despite living 50 miles away from him. I like him very much,but he has been in a hurry from the get go. He says he understands depression cause he almost died from having a preventative heart surgery 3 yrs. ago and lost his fiance. Im upset cause hes stepped on my toes with some of the words hes said,but most of all I feel I cant fill the shoes he wants me to fill. There is something special between us and there is understanding on alot of things. When were together its great, when were not it falls apart. I come home from the weekend with him and everything feels great. Thru the week I fall apart. Can someone help me solve this?

What do I do?
in this case i would say that he may sound a little demanding but all you have to do is make him aware of what is reality and what works. Yes guys like to be controlling but in the end in a relationship girls always control the speed. I would say you two together are great but you two have individual problems and things fall apart because you probably let those individual problems interfere with judgement and emotion. I would not worry about if two are very good together and you might want to try to move things foward. But realize that when your not together things really cant fall apart unless you are allowing something else to interfear. I would try to see if you can help eachother out and maybe you will get closer the more you help eachother and the more personal you get the more you might understand how far you want to go with this man.
Reply:He has needs that you are not in a position to fill ( even if you wanted to) since you have children to raise. Please focus on your children while they are with you, then you can have a relationship. It will be difficult but just tell him you need to take a break from seeing him and concentrate on children or tell him that you need to move on and arent ready or something like that. Or just simply be busy, dont answer calls promptly etc. He does not respect you from what you write about his actions. You deserve Better but wait till your children are 18
Reply:I think that this is not the right relationship for you. If he doesn't understand your situation then he is not being respectful of you. Relationships are about trust and respect. If he doesn't respect you now it will only worsen later.
Reply:Well besides been demanding seems like he is controling too. ANd for you to go visit him for the weekend, why not let him come visit you for a change and remember a relationship is suppose to be 50/50 not 100/0. ANd he should know better. SO it depends if you think it is worth the driving that will make your relationship work with him well stay but I would talk with him and tell him how you feel so he can know what is expected of him to. Make it a 2 way not a 1 way reltionship
Reply:You need to get away from this man.He is taking advantage of you.Trust me.He probably has another woman somewhere else for the weekdays.This is not ggod for you or your children you need a stable environment for your kids and do really want true happiness or do want to be a weekend flyby.Find a man with that is good for not only you but for your babies they mean the most.
Reply:If he really loved you, he would try to help you with whatever problems you have. To me you sound like an average married couple (even though you're not married. ) Try talking to him and find ways to fulfill both his and your expectations. you might have to make a few sacrifices, but in the end it will be worth it.



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