I want my tubes tied and Im 22 years old.?

I will almost be 23 when the procedure is to be done. I have a daughter right now she is a year old and was born with clubfeet. It has been really hard for my husband and I going through all this over the past year. She will be in special shoes till she is three and has to fly to south carolina for a visit twice a year. Plus I am pregnant right now and am due in May. I asked my doctor if she would consider tieing my tubes and she didnt say no but was against it. How do i convice her that this is my last child and I want her to tie them for me. I know my daughter wont need help but for so long but we cant afford to have anymore after two. I already know I want them tied but what should I say to her to help her understand???

I want my tubes tied and Im 22 years old.?
go ahead. You have your head on straight!One of your children already has a disability and you have another on the way. Financially I think it is a wise decision. Plus, if in 15 years you want another... adopt! You sound like a caring mother.
Reply:Go find another Doc to do it , check around , you can find a good doc to do it. I'm trying to talk to my doc into it myself.
Reply:Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You child has a correctable condition. Sure it is hard but it will get easier.She doesn't have cancer or type one diabetes or any number of other very serious, deadly conditions.


As the years go by things will settle down and get easier. Don't close the door just yet.
Reply:Nothing she is your doctor she deserves no explanation. I dont know where you live but I live in Indiana and most doctors will not tie anyones tubes who isnt atleast 21 or had 2 kids. Wtih that being said you well fit the category. Just tell her you dont and cant finacially handle more children. Just like birth control it is your choice not hers. good luck honey congratulations.
Reply:get an iud...they are good for 10 years and can be taken out so that if you do change ur mind, you can have another child...and if after those 10 years, your doc may tie your tubes then.
Reply:If she didn't refuse, then ask again.


My daughter was only 22 and they did hers without any questions or problems.


She knew she only wanted 2 children. (both boys)
Reply:You are too young, just use birth-control instead of tying your tubes. You may change your mind.
Reply:If your doctor won't do it, find another. I'll also recommend having your husband get a vasectomy, it's more effective and less painful(especially for you!)
Reply:You may have trouble finding a doctor to do it at your age. But keep looking.
Reply:I would find another doctor who will, if she won't do it.


When tubes are tied, that's it, they can't be untied. Maybe that is why your doctor is against it, or she will not do it because you are pregnant.
Reply:i am 27 and had my tubes tied 4 years ago. I REGRET IT!!!!! my advice to you is NOT to do it. consider an IUD, they put it inside you and it lasts for ten years, but can also be removed if you change your mind! otherwise you can get a new one every ten years. girl, dont make the same mistake i did!!
Reply:Your doctor doesn't need to understand your motives. She just needs to treat you.





If she refuses to do the procedure, go see another doctor. She doesn't have to be your friend. You don't need her approval.
Reply:Your doctor doesn't need to understand your motives. She just needs to treat you.





If she refuses to do the procedure, go see another doctor. She doesn't have to be your friend. You don't need her approval.
Reply:Sorry to be the one tell you this. But NO doctor will do because you are only 22 years old. They want youto have at lease two children or a medical reason for it. My sis ter don't want any child and she is 33 years old the doctor won't tie her tubes. They won't do it because they will think you will change your mine when you get older. By the way just becuae your child was born with clubfeet doesn't mean your next one will have it.
Reply:Ok, this is a sad but true story.


I know someone who wanted to do the same thing for the same reason as yours. Her Dr. refused to do the procedure because she was young and convinced her to use another method of birth control. Years later when she was in her 30's they were in a car accident and they lost both their kids. It was a very sad situation. The kids were about 8 or 9 years old. Both parents were devastated. A couple years after that they decided to have kids again and they had a healthy set of twins. And even though they still miss their first children, they are very thankful that they were able to have more kids.





The procedure to tie the tubes in women is irreversible and much more complicated than vasectomy. You are way to young and many things may happen that may change your mind about having kids. Please use another type of birth control method.
Reply:You have to do what ever YOU feel is best for yourself.
Reply:i believe you have to be 25 to have your tubes tied or on your third child
Reply:I dont suggest for you to tie your tubes you are way too young for that. I have 2 kids girl and a boy and I am not sure if I want to have any more children so I had the IUD placed in me and it works great no problems there is a 5 year and a 10 year. I would suggest that. give it some time and if after the IUD expires and you still dont want kids then tie them.
Reply:It's not her option. She doesn't have to understand.
Reply:She didn't say no, which means she will do it. You just let her know this is how you feel.
Reply:usually if you have had two children they will tie them.I dont see a problem her not doing it after your second baby is born.
Reply:Since you've already given birth to a child and you are having another one in May, there is no reason for an ob/gyn to be against it.





You may want to consider something less invasive than a tubal ligation. Essure doesn't involve any incisions, whereas a tubal ligation requires cutting. Essure is done via hysteroscopy, through the cervix. It's less painful and the recovery is quicker.





I wish you all the best with your daughter. I have a daughter born with a cleft lip/palate, she's now 5, and has undergone 7 surgeries so far, with more to come. I can totally empathize with you.





Good luck to you.
Reply:Find another doctor who will listen to you, not push her opinions on you.
Reply:do it



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